.Beautiful Disaster.

Was watching Average Joe Hawaii on tv a while ago. Its another American reality show( yes i am a sucker for them), showing on Malaysian 8 channel. The storyline is simple, its a classical The Bacherlorette with a twist. A beautiful, well-talented former miss USA chooses her mate over 20 odd plus Average Joes through several rounds of elimination, seeing if she can find true love beyond the shallow facade of physical appearance.

The guys seem really below average to me...Well there's the dork, the nerd, the one that stammers, the vertically and horizontally challenged, the ones with B.O.s and weird personalities etc. They are all called AVERAGE Joes. Midway through the show, a yacht full of hunks appears and claim that they are part of the new competition. If u're wondering why this sounds a lot like Denise Keller's Eye for a Guy, well the local version is a rip-off from this show most likely...)

Question is, would u girls out there date an average joe? Someone like those mentioned above? I asked myself that question and thought, as much as i have led myself to believe personality is always wat i look for in a guy, i cannot deny the fact that personal image is still important. Which leads me to think i am rather shallow and superficial...

Actually not :P Because if u think abt it, just justify it this way... Men who are confident about themselves usually show more character than those who do not. A guy might not be bestowed with the greatest features, nor the best physique, or be as drop dead gorgeous as Brad Pitt or Pierce Brosnan, fair enough, but that doesn't mean they can't find ways to style themselves to look more presentable? I've known guys who have a whole lot of personality, do not certainly score in the looks department, but are attractive in their own way and carry themselves with a dignified charm. It all boils down then, to being confident about your inner self, taking an effort to looking good and presentable, then you'll take pride in wat you look on the outside. No?

How about obese F.A.T. average joes? Would you date them? I hardly would. And the problem is not really about aesthetics, but health. I cannot *stand* a guy who doesn't care about the well-being of his body, and stand the risk of tipping precariously at the scales. Guys with the dreaded b.o. problem, well wat are deodorants and perfumes for really... Still the problem boils down to responsible self-grooming, and adopting a healthy lifestyle.

That being said, i still believe personality outweighs the importance of looks, but the whole package is still a factor. Though really all these talk just defines what initial attraction is about. Love is sucha silly thing, you sometimes end up with a person that might not even resemble the dream guy you've often craved about. Like a friend of mine once said, physical attraction only goes that much, but once you fall in love with a person, you end up loving him/her for who they truly are, flaws n imperfections included.

So true, don't you agree?