.Beautiful Disaster.

I'm sure most often than not you've wondered. Wondered why some people are seemingly blessed with everything. A loving portrait of a family, a doting bf/gf, seemingly endless supply of cash, commodities like cars, IPODs, expensive watches, jewellery and large houses, pools and gardens. Or perhaps u envy the coolest/most popular person in school, who effortlessly gets into the Dean's list, drive the coolest car, own the coolest gadgets, wears the trendiest clothes, flaunts the best figure, or turns the most heads with natural dashing good looks.

Everyone does a good deal of comparing oneself to the other from time to time. We compare cap scores, handphone models, clothing, accessories openly with one another. We oogle at the good-lookers, the well-dressers, the talented, the ones with the full package. Comparing can do us a whole lot of harm. From feeling a slight tinge of jealousy to blaming our own fates and misfortune, and constantly viewing the world as unfair. How is it that while our neighbours seem to have lady luck smiling upon them, bestowing onto them enviable love & riches, we continually drown in our bitter state of self-defined deprivation(materialistical & emotional)?

the grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side. We all know, at the very back part of our heads there are probably worser withered grasses on the opposite side of the field far away from ours, yet we conveniently choose to ignore those, and not be contended with wat we already have. We feel a whole lot of indignation for the state we're in, unrightfully so. We blame the divine, others, our circumstances, our society, ourselves for the situation we're in. In the whole blame game one chooses to miserably dwell in, we do not think of how the greener grass on the other side is only so much greener for a while. That green grass can dry out & wither. That the sun doesn't always shine on the same spot. That people standing on greener grasses perhaps sacrificed a lot to be there. And that to certain people our grasses are the greener ones. And that maybe there are timings for everyone in the ever changing wheel of fate & fortune. That one downside could be followed by a blessing the very next, and that the ones we perceived lucky just got their blessings first before us.

People compare constantly, wanting to be better than everyone else. The world, the mass media perpetuates in us the thinking that we need to be equipped materialistically in order to be socially acceptable. In every human being lies an innate hunger to be accepted, to be valued. To assimilate, blend in, feel part of the crowd, feel indispensable. No one likes to fade into oblivion, be alienated or feel redundant. Just for that one great reason, we pick that Zara's jeans off the rack, the Gucci bag off the shelves, the Anna Sui's perfume off the beautiful display. Other than being swayed by mere temptations, we need to belong. And these things achieve that status for us.

After hearing the speech by Sy Rogers last Sunday, i've learnt to cease comparing and dwelling in self-pity. Its true i still yearn for a whole lot of pretty things, but i've come to curb my temptations, and i feel just fine doing without them. I count my blessings n disregard the pretty excesses ppl have. I've been a whole lot happier this week compared to the last, and i know the perfect reason why. ;)