.Beautiful Disaster.
Tuesday, December 13, 2005
Friendships are full of expectations.


My jc geog teacher once told us she never agreed with the saying "The only thing thats constant is change".

Well for a very obvious reason, change cannot possibly be perpetually constant. Sometimes change happens acceleratingly, sometimes it decelerates. Change itself as a variable cannot be said to be constant all e time.

But i guess speed of change is one thing. The quality of the change is far more paramount. Change can be positive or negative. Especially when the change concerns people. Your friends, your family your lover/s...

People change, so do relationships. Or perhaps its the feelings that are changing, while the people stay pretty much the same. When i fell out with one of my close pals a few years back, i spent a whole lot of time over-analysing what went wrong. I thought perhaps she chose her bf over me, or perhaps her bf changed the person she was when i came to know and liked her.

Or maybe just being with her long enough exposed a different side of her that i came to dislike, and eventually it killed off our friendship. I never figured what the exact reason was, but there is only so much insensitivity, hurt, dismay, irritation a friend can take before she calls it quits once and for all. Its sad, but it happens, even to those all around me.

Fortunately there are pals that are for keeps, though those are as rare as their precious memories.

For one, so many things in a friendship breeds disppointment.

Expectations breed disappointments.
Insensitivity breeds disappointments.
Indifference breeds disappointments.
Lack of communication breeds disappointments.
Betrayal breeds disappointments.
Lack of honesty breeds disappointments.

Of course there can never be sucha thing as a perfect friend, or much less a perfect friendship. But there are certain things that define a close friend from a casual distant one. I guess 'greater expectations' sums it up pretty well.

Don't plant kisses when they can cause tears.

I guess when one hopes that much, the greater the disappointment is.

I hope at the end of the day, my friends are worth all that i've given, and that they are for keeps, cos i love and appreciate everyone of them. Really do~

god bless

LA FEMME

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Name: Bianca
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